End the Arguing

 

A nine-lesson workshop designed to help you understand why your

relationship has broken down and teaches you how to fix it.  

 

This workshop is based on my self-study course called Getting to the Root of the Problem in Your Relationship. It is a nine-lesson series that runs for nine consecutive weeks. Each evening I will present a new lesson and you will have the opportunity to ask any questions you may have about the current lesson or any previous lesson(s).

You may register on your own, as a couple or with a friend. Registration in all nine evenings is required.

How do you know if this workshop is for you?

 

Many couples who struggle in their relationship describe having one or two “hot topics” that they repeatedly argue about and can never seem to resolve despite their best efforts.  

 

Does it feel like no matter how hard you try to communicate your thoughts and feelings your spouse still doesn’t understand you?  Regardless of how careful you are to express exactly what you’re thinking, you still can’t seem to relay your message?  Or, no matter how determined you’ve been to figure out what’s really going on, you still aren’t able to get to the bottom of things?  Some people say it feels like they’re living in the twilight zone – they feel disoriented, confused and completely powerless to make headway.   You may have even read all of the “right” books and done all sorts of “self-help work” – meditation, psychotherapy, life coaching, maybe even medication too…but here you are, again, stuck in the same spot.  

 

You may be relieved to learn that typically there is a very specific reason that those hot topics can never be resolved and that the solution is easier than you might think. Most couples are very surprised to learn that personal characteristics developed from unresolved emotional pain from the past is the culprit that is wreaking havoc on their relationship and is responsible for eroding their emotional and intimate connection and their ability to communicate effectively.  

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What you will learn...

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This workshop was developed to help struggling couples finally understand the core issue that lies beneath the challenges in their relationship and provides them with practical and practice-able tools and strategies to help them overcome those challenges. Using focused and targeted exercises you’ll not only uncover the root issue that is causing the problem, you’ll actually begin to address that root issue so it stops wreaking havoc in your relationship.

 

Typically, traditional forms of therapy address surface issues like helping couples learn to communicate more effectively and there's nothing wrong with that -  it never hurts to brush up on communication skills, right? However, all of the communication techniques in the world will be useless unless you deal with the emotional root issue that is making communication difficult in the first place.

 

Focusing on communication skills without dealing with the root issue is like putting new tires on a car that needs a wheel alignment - your efforts won't fix the problem.

 

My approach does what other forms of therapy seem unable to do - it really was designed to identify and address the hidden emotional pain that's been responsible for causing those hot topics and preventing you from solving the problems. 

 

 

This workshop will help you:

 

• identify and heal the emotional pain that is responsible for causing the problems in your relationship,

• learn how to effectively communicate with your partner, even when your emotional pain has been triggered,

• learn effective tools to help you manage your triggers so you can reset mentally and emotionally and regain emotional balance,

• identify things that your spouse does that triggers your emotional pain,

• identify the trauma that created your emotional pain, and

• understand The Cycle of Emotional Pain and how emotional pain from the past has been impacting your life and your relationship.

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This Workshop Might be for you if you ...

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• have problems you haven’t been able to resolve or understand fully, despite all best efforts,

• are open to examining old wounds but not eternally living in them,

• aren’t into blame and finger-pointing, and

• would consider yourself open to learning more about your emotions and how they may be impacting your life.

 

 

"Without you and this course I honestly don’t think my husband and I would have made it as a couple. This course has been life-changing – it has taught me so much and I can’t thank you enough!!! I see the man I married again and he said he sees the women he married again. Thank you. Thanks for opening my heart and my mind so I could see what was possible for us when we put in the work." AW

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Workshop Structure

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We will start each evening with a Leftovers segment, where you'll have a chance to ask questions and/or discuss the insights you had from the previous lesson.  Next, we will go through all of the theory and concepts of the lesson for that day—again giving you the opportunity to ask questions and get any clarity you might need before you go home and work on the exercises, on your own time.

 

This workshop consists of 9 lessons and each lesson starts with:

 

1. The presentation of the concept(s) in the lesson (this is the theory part) and includes clear examples to help you understand the concepts.

2. Next, you are given focused and targeted exercises intended to evoke the insight and emotion necessary to help you understand the concept in each lesson and how it impacts you and your relationship.

3. Lastly, you will be given simple homework assignments in the form of tools and strategies you can practice in your daily life so the lesson content becomes integrated, making lasting change possible.

 

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 Lesson Content

 

In this workshop, you will learn about the Cycle of Emotional Pain, how it impacts you and your relationship and you will be given strategies that will help you break the Cycle and restore emotional balance and peace within you and your relationship. 

 

The 9 lessons are described below: 

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The Cycle of Emotional Pain